Self Confidence is a demonstration of self trust.
In today’s world, ideas like power and self-confidence are often viewed as the beginnings of villainy and ego-engorging corruption but, without a measure of power, without a diligent degree of self-confidence all of life becomes an obstacle. To utterly lack self-confidence makes life like a prison where people merely hope and await permission to dare something spontaneous or unique. This fear of exercising power and the covert demonisation of self-confidence does much to keep people in a sheep-like state, hooked in with the crowd, feeling safe in an obscure gelatin of irresponsibility.
So we know being completely without self-confidence is a terminal blow to the mental and psychic life. The sooner anybody realizes that their power in life is generated from within, the sooner that person can tap into their inner genius, act from a place of abundance and move confidently embracing endless opportunities that are in accord with their personal vision of life.
But what about people who are at the extreme of having power and self-confidence? Most of us have seen power hungry figures who appear so self-confident that the smirk on their face could make someone sick but, often the people “acting” the most powerful and appearing the most confident are actually very scared posers who aren’t sure of themselves at all.
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True power doesn’t announce itself. Genuine self-confidence doesn’t need to make other people seem insignificant and real self-confidence doesn’t need to superficially puff itself up. So what is real self-confidence?
True and genuine self-confidence comes from a place of “knowing”. This kind of knowing isn’t like you know today’s date or what will be for dinner. The kind of knowing connected with true self-confidence is deeper than knowledge that can be gathered like facts.
Consider Abe Lincoln, Steve Jobs, Martin Luther King Jr., Lady Gaga, Michael Jackson, Amelia Earhardt, Maya Angelou, and Stephen Hawkings. Despite these person’s personal lives history shows us that they defied odds, decided that what was in their heart was more real than what they sensed in the world around them...and they decided to bring it into the world.. to give it life.
You see as human beings, we are creators endowed with the magnificent power to bring new terms and possibilities into reality. That can be really scary for some people. But just like anything that is potentially dangerous, research shows that being acquainted with and maintaining respect for a potentially hazardous actuality is the best way to not abuse or misuse its powers (sugar, guns, sex, drugs, rock n roll, etc)
Without sufficient confidence in one's self, that which appears impossible would always remain so. Joan of Arc, Napoleon, even the President of the United States, Barack Obama exhibited a powerful self-confidence that opened doors where an unconfident person would never stand a chance. (Don’t get all in a tissy if all of your politrickin’ alarms are going off. This isn’t a political debate. It’s about how confidence influences situations and re-forms contexts).
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I know some of the keen controversialists out there are screaming, “What about competence?” That's a good question. And my response is that competence comes through braving the trials while building personal resolve and satching up Self-Reliance.
Check out what Larae Quy has to say about developing confidence:
"Developing confidence in our abilities only comes when we open ourselves up enough to experience the humiliation of defeat and the determination of getting back up. If you cower and shrink into the shadows, you will never be mentally tough." -laraequy.com
Why not check out her full post titled 4 SECRETS TO MENTAL TOUGHNESS because, with a little mental toughness, authentic confidence can confront anything.